Monday, March 28, 2005

Today's the day

So as the state of Florida starves poor Terri Schiavo to death I sit here and ponder why the world can be so cruel.. if we remove the feeding tube from this woman who was clearly not dying do we then go ahead and starve all invalids and people that can't feed themselves? Do we turn this into a survival of the fittest society and remove any support from those that can't help themselves? I have often deviated from the Republican party by supporting the right to die. I think that an individual should be able to decide when it's a quality of life issue whether or not they should continue on. The government has too much say in my life and my body as it is... if I choose NOT to be a vegetable or have a feeding tube, etc.. it should be my decision whether or not to give up constant care... My issue with the Schiavo case is this.. she has no living will... the courts are taking the word of her husband who 7 YEARS after her collapse mentioned that she didn't want to live like this... 7 YEARS... not one mention to her parents, siblings, or friends of this desire..only to her husband.. a man that has moved on to another woman...has started a new family... a man that has no respect for Terri's BIOLOGICAL family... this is where the problem lies... this man Michael Schiavo took a vow of in sickness and in health and if he wishes to divorce Terri b/c of her state there aren't many out there that would blame him.. HOWEVER, he still chooses to continue guardianship, meddling in her life, etc..with another woman and kids waiting for him at home every day! It makes me sick... I hope to God he get's what he deserves in the end that he doesn't profit off of this poor woman's murder.. and if Michael Schiavo is free then why not Dr Kevorkian? At least his patients physically told him what they wanted...
SO the a.m. sickness hasn't been so bad... I'm more excited to find out today what my best friend is having...she should be calling me anytime now with the news... I'm betting on a girl...but more than anything I want them both to be healthy.. it seems almost everyone is pregnant that I know right now... there are a few more that are trying and a few that are going to be trying real soon... good luck to all!! "tis the season! Pregnancy is such a happy time! Despite the little bit of nausea and being tired it really isn't so bad for me... I think the fact that I am married to the love of my life and the most amazing father in the world (besides my dad of course) helps me.. that of course leads me to my next rant... why do people get pregnant when they're not happy in their marriage? Children are NOT a band aid to fix all the problems in the adult relationship.. I was married once and I did NOT have children specifically b/c we weren't happy for a long time... he begged me for kids and the fact I stood firm was the best thing I could've ever done.. it allowed us both to move on to what we were meant to have! But too many times I see people that get this schedule of children in their heads... you know the "we want kids aprox 2 years apart"couples.. A lot can happen in those years between kids and if you're not happy when it's time to get pregnant again then you should get counseling and put number 2 off! There are people in my life that I love dearly and I'm seriously concerned for the state of their lives... these are people that are great parents to the child they have but it's obvious to EVERYONE around them that their marriage is in grave danger.. there is NO respect and very little love between them... there is constant nagging and put downs and it hurts to be around them! It makes me sad that two people that once loved each other have resorted to this.. I feel that marital problems are no ones business..Lord knows I had enough people commenting on the state of my former marriage to sink a ship... In fact it annoys me to all end when people that didn't know either of us then act like they were there... but when 2 people are fighting in public in front of friends, family, etc... I think it's time for the people that love them to step in and say enough... for your child's sake get some counseling.... for both of your sakes get some help... is it obvious to everyone but them that they can give their kid everything in the world..every toy...every game...but if they don't give him or her a happy family and parents that respect and love each other then they AREN'T doing their kid a damn bit of good! No marriage is perfect... but it will be a cold day in hell when I disrespect my husband in front of our kids! I just say this.. maybe you're hitting a bad patch right now, maybe your jobs suck, maybe parenthood is a bit overwhelming... that's normal.. so work on it! We're rooting for you to get better and heal what you have! Just don't bring another kid into the mix until you've figured some things out... that isn't fair to anyone involved!
To Alica and Antony I can't wait to find out.. to the S's congrats and I can't wait to meet Sam... and to all my friends and family I love and miss you.. hope your Easter was wonderful! Ciao

2 Comments:

Blogger Jacoba said...

Well, Mrs. W, I will have to say that I actually agree with your take on Terri Schiavo. If I were in the same situation as Michael I would not be courting or living with a woman if my wife were in a hospital bed. For one, it is disrespectful and is not following the vows of marriage that he took. If Terri's family wants to care for her until dooms day, let them be responsible in every way for her well being.

2:49 PM  
Blogger Jacoba said...

And yes, I believe that what is being allowed to take place with Terri is barbaric and in humane.

2:51 PM  

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