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So much has happened in a few weeks and I feel as if I haven't blogged forever... yesterday was a bad day... My grandfather is in a coma and dying as we speak... he hasn't eaten for 3 days now and he's unresponsive to everything and everyone around him... I am not sad that he's dying... his quality of life for the last few years hasn't been the best and I would rather remember him as the vibrant, cantekerous old man that I grew up loving... I choose to celebrate the life he had rather than his current situation... but I do feel horrible for my grandmother... she and grandpa have been together 70 years... I mean HOLY COW!!! How often are people together that long anymore...they are the inspiration for my marriage! I just feel so bad for her because she is healthy and could probably live for another 5 years... I don't want her giving up on life because he's gone- like so many do! It also makes me a little sad that my grandfather will never meet my second child... he so loved seeing Gavin when we visited and I had just hoped that he made it to the fall so he could meet "number 2"... so things aren't so great for me today and as we wait for the inevitable I just can't help but remember happier times!
SO all else is well here... baby seems to be doing great and I'm getting bigger with each passing day! We had an ultra-sound last week and we're measuring right on for end of Oct.. the baby was moving all over the place and seemed good! I'm just happy that my husband is at least not deployed this time to be able to enjoy the visits with me... although with my mood swings sometimes I bet he wishes he were fighting the insurgents again!!
At least this pregnancy is seems EVERYONE I know is pregnant with me so it's not so tough! Two more friends this week announced their impending births so I think that puts it at 7 for my friends... oh yeah when it rains it pours... after this though mama is DONE! My sister and brother can take up the slack on grandkids... I want to enjoy the 2 I'll have, my life, and my husband! I'm one of those people that can't handle too much on my plate!
So that brings me to that Oprah that was on last week about marriages and children... it was a great show and something could be learned from what was said... the argument was who should be the priority in a family?? Should the kids be first (as is the case in most marriages with kids)? The husband? or you? Well, the proper order according to family specialists is you, your spouse, then your kids!! I have to admit this is something that I TOTALLY agree with! I feel (long before this show and I've stated it to many people I know) that if you don't put yourself and your marriage first- your kids won't benefit in the long run! Too many moms put their childrens needs above everything and everyone else in the family. By doing this, they neglect their marriages, their friendships, and themselves. To me this is teaching the child that personal relationships aren't important and that the kids are the center of the world! Don't get me wrong! I love my child(and soon to be children) but I will not neglect the other relationships (esp my marriage) to make sure that they are always number one! I think kids need to know that they are loved and they need to be given enough self esteem to be able to function in the real world... they need to understand success and with that failure and that having a good marital relationship is possible with a family! Neglecting and ignoring my husbands and my own needs is not teaching them these things!
Not too long ago I had a conversation with someone I love very much about some of these things! This person is a wonderful mother to her child but her marriage sucks and as a person she has completely let herself go! She has spent the last few years throwing everything she has into being a mommy and nothing into relationships... as a result her marriage is crumbling and her relationships with people aren't so great either! I feel so bad that everyone around her sees this and she doesn't b/c I know that with a few changes she could get herself back on track... if she continues to ignore what's going on she will lose everything eventually! Now this is not to say that I am perfect... I strive all the time to get my relationships with people right (esp my husband) and sometimes I fail but I guess more than anything it's the effort you put into these relationships that really counts! I finish by saying you aren't being a good mom if your kids are your entire world and nothing else!
SO enough rambling for today! Pray for my gramps and I hope that everyone has a wonderful week... I may not blog for a few days b/c my wild and crazy poppy-in-law is coming from NY to visit and we have an airborne jump and museums to visit! So until later ciao